I ran into a friend / old roommate at the library just now. He greeted me by saying “so, you’re as lame as me for not being on a date Friday night?” He then proceeded to give a very interesting hypothesis as to the meaning of this…
Basically, he said “I figured out why I’m never on a date on Friday night. It’s because all I care about is me, and I don’t want to spend the time making other people happy. So I go work out and have fun instead of asking people out.”
This was interesting, because honestly the thought of hey, it’s Friday night and I don’t have a date didn’t cross my mind at all this evening.
It’s an interesting way to think about it–is this why us guys don’t ask girls out on more dates? Because we’re absorbed too much in things directly affecting us? Interesting.
Of course, it’s not like having fun and dating are mutually exclusive. It may often be the case (because, honestly, the dating game really does suck. I hear it’s like that until you get into a relationship), but it doesn’t have to be. Hypothetically, if I find the right girl, it could be very fun. Perhaps I should conduct a few experiments to try and confirm this hypothesis…
And now that I’m finished being a complete dork, I’m going to spend the next hour on a hot date with my sci fi novel.
Going off my own experience, I’d have to agree with your friend’s hypothesis. I’d also add that another example of “me”-thinking is not wanting to leave your comfort-zone. Going up to a girl and asking her on a date is just not…fun.
Yes…the more I think about it, the more I agree…and the more I feel rebuked.
Funny– I always thought it was enormous fun to ask girls out– then again, I have a superfluity of overconfidence, so maybe I’m not a good example of what’s typical.