{"id":6723,"date":"2011-12-20T11:00:30","date_gmt":"2011-12-20T18:00:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/?p=6723"},"modified":"2011-12-20T12:51:20","modified_gmt":"2011-12-20T19:51:20","slug":"trope-tuesday-celibate-hero-vs-the-fettered","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/trope-tuesday-celibate-hero-vs-the-fettered\/","title":{"rendered":"Trope Tuesday: Celibate Hero vs. The Fettered"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Yes, there are still good men out there...and they tend to know who's boss.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

I’m mashing up two tropes this week because I’m not satisfied with the one. \u00a0There are a bazillion tropes about characters who are sexually active, but very few about sexually chaste characters that don’t portray them as weak, clueless, or socially inept.<\/p>\n

According to tvtropes, a celibate hero<\/a> is a main character who “doesn’t do the romance thing.” Unlike the chaste hero<\/a>, who is just clueless, the celibate hero has made a conscious decision not to engage in sexual relations or get tied down in a relationship. \u00a0There may be any number of reasons for this, but it usually comes down to some combination of Love is a Weakness<\/a>, Love Hurts<\/a>,\u00a0and It’s Not You, It’s My Enemies<\/a>.<\/p>\n

(As a hilarious example of this: TESLA!!!<\/a>)<\/p>\n

But what about the character who isn’t necessarily opposed to romance, but feels that they should wait<\/a>\u00a0until marriage to have sex? \u00a0Unfortunately, this trope is pretty rare nowadays. \u00a0I can only think of two mainstream examples: Edward from Twilight and Reverend Theo from Schlock Mercenary.<\/p>\n

Theo in particular is a great example of this, because he’s not clueless, he’s not weak, and he not only gets the girl, he gets the girl that everyone wants. \u00a0The only reason he holds out is because his religious order forbids sex before marriage. \u00a0It does permit priests to marry, however, so Theo does manage to balance the two<\/a>.<\/p>\n

So why are characters like this so rare? \u00a0Unfortunately, I think it comes down to the widespread notion that a true man isn’t a virgin<\/a>, and that sex makes people cool<\/a>. \u00a0If we accept these tropes as true, then that means that men who exercise self-restraint are actually weak and pitiful, and couples who choose to wait are pathetic losers.<\/p>\n

It’s worth pointing out that both Edward and Reverent Theo were created by writers who are practicing Mormons–people who belong to a religious community where it’s still the norm to wait until marriage. \u00a0If literature is the way that the culture speaks to itself, then this goes to show just how unrestrained the rest of Western society has become.<\/p>\n

This is why I think that the better trope for this kind of character is The Fettered<\/a>. \u00a0Unlike the celibate hero, who usually gives up sex for some kind of external reason, the fettered gives it up as a matter of principle. \u00a0Living by his ideals isn’t easy, and he’s constantly tempted to give in and break his moral code. \u00a0However, by resisting these temptations, the fettered gains great strength, and can stand like a beacon of light in an otherwise disillusioned world.<\/p>\n

This is actually something that I tried to do with my latest novel, Desert Stars.<\/strong>\u00a0 The main character, Jalil, is a man who believes in honor, and follows a code of abstinence before marriage. \u00a0However, to manipulate him into staying at the camp, his father charges Mira, the female protagonist, to seduce him. \u00a0Since the fettered’s strength is also his greatest weakness, if Mira can get Jalil to sully her honor, then out of shame he will return and marry her.<\/p>\n

The catch? \u00a0She actually has feelings for him, and doesn’t want to manipulate him in this way. \u00a0In this way, merely persuading him to have sex isn’t a win condition–in fact, if done in the wrong way, it could be a very serious “game over<\/a>.”<\/p>\n

Whether or not I actually pulled it off well is up to the readers to judge. \u00a0But one thing I was definitely shooting for was to write a character who fulfills this trope in an unconventional yet powerful way. \u00a0And if you’ll permit me to step onto my soapbox for a little bit, I think our culture desperately needs more heroes like this–heroes who show that\u00a0real<\/em>\u00a0men are capable of self-restraint, and that following a moral code is still cool, even if it means waiting to consummate a relationship.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I’m mashing up two tropes this week because I’m not satisfied with the one. \u00a0There are a bazillion tropes about characters who are sexually active, but very few about sexually chaste characters that don’t portray them as weak, clueless, or socially inept. According to tvtropes, a celibate hero is a main character who “doesn’t do… Continue reading Trope Tuesday: Celibate Hero vs. The Fettered<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[44],"tags":[361,160,672,421,257,408,599,641,565,626],"class_list":["post-6723","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-ds","tag-love","tag-romance","tag-schlock-mercenary","tag-science-fiction-romance","tag-sex","tag-sexual-tension","tag-thoughts-reflections","tag-trope-tuesday","tag-tropes-and-cliches","tag-tvtropes","entry"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p7iXK-1Kr","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6723","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6723"}],"version-history":[{"count":15,"href":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6723\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6751,"href":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6723\/revisions\/6751"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6723"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6723"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6723"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}