This funny thing happened to me during church on Sunday, and it’s been puzzling me recently.\u00a0 I almost forgot about it, but it came back to me during work.\u00a0 It doesn’t have a whole lot to do with writing, but I thought I’d post it here to see if anyone could help me understand what’s going on…<\/p>\n
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After sacrament meeting, I was hanging out and chatting with different people, and one of my FHE sisters walked up to me.\u00a0 We talked for a little bit, and then she said “you know, you can ask me out anytime you want,” and then she left.<\/p>\n
The question in my mind isn’t “what did she mean by that?” Her statement was so blunt and direct that it’d be hard to take it the wrong way.\u00a0 What I’m wondering about is what prompted her to say this, and what course of action should I take?<\/p>\n
Now, this seems like a pretty cool girl–confident, outgoing, fairly attractive–but I’m not particularly interested in her.\u00a0 That said, I’m not particularly uninterested<\/em> either–she just hasn’t been on the radar.<\/p>\n Would I mind taking her out?\u00a0 Not really, but I don’t know her that well and I don’t know too much what to do.\u00a0 Besides, it is kind of a hassle–I’m always very busy, so I don’t really want to set aside a large chunk of time to do something unless I think it’ll be worth it.<\/p>\n The thing that puzzles me is what she was thinking that prompted her to come out and say this.\u00a0 Did I give some kind of a false indication that I was interested in her?\u00a0 Or is she really interested in me, and doesn’t know of any other way to get my attention?<\/p>\n This reminds me of another incident with this same girl a couple of months ago.\u00a0 I was on my way somewhere, and I stopped by my apartment for a little bit before leaving.\u00a0 I noticed that some of my Arab friends had come, but they were all upstairs where this dance was going on.\u00a0 I wanted to say hi before I left, so I went upstairs and chatted with them for a little bit.\u00a0 While I was there (and I had a shoulderbag on, so it should have been fairly obvious that I wasn’t there to dance), this same girl came up to our group and started talking with me.\u00a0 We chatted for a bit, and then she said “well, I’d better go off and find someone to dance with.” The impression I had was that she was voicing her annoyance that all of us were standing in a group and none of us were dancing.\u00a0 I left a few minutes later.<\/p>\n This other girl I work with made a good point when she said “it doesn’t really matter what she thinks–if you like her, ask her out, and if you don’t, don’t worry about it.” I’m not too worried about it–to be honest, I’m more amused than anything–but I’m trying to figure out what would happen based on my next move.\u00a0 If I do nothing, will she feel humiliated?\u00a0 Will she be angry with me?\u00a0 If I do ask her out, will it be worth the hassle?\u00a0 How will she interpret it?\u00a0 If I wait a couple of weeks before asking her out, will she get really annoyed and think badly of me?\u00a0 If it’s the case that she’s interested in my, why doesn’t she just ask me out?\u00a0 Would I really want to date a girl who sees dating as so formal that only guys can ask girls out, not vice versa?<\/p>\n Honestly, if things were to run out their usual course, I’d probably have totally forgotten about this whole thing.\u00a0 For some reason, it came to my mind while I was working, and I found it amusing and curious so I thought I’d post it here.\u00a0 What do you think?<\/p>\n In the meantime, I’ve been making some mad awesome progress with my writing: 2,000 words in The Wormhole Paradigm<\/em> (it needs a new title) and 500 words in The Lost Colony<\/em>.\u00a0 I also calculated that I have 45 days left before the deadline I set for myself–45 days in which to accomplish my goal to finish this novel.\u00a0 And man!\u00a0 I can actually do it!\u00a0 I am really<\/em> excited for this!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" This funny thing happened to me during church on Sunday, and it’s been puzzling me recently.\u00a0 I almost forgot about it, but it came back to me during work.\u00a0 It doesn’t have a whole lot to do with writing, but I thought I’d post it here to see if anyone could help me understand what’s… Continue reading A curious 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