{"id":11096,"date":"2017-06-08T10:00:00","date_gmt":"2017-06-08T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/?p=11096"},"modified":"2017-06-03T20:22:47","modified_gmt":"2017-06-04T01:22:47","slug":"happiness-is-always-a-choice-take-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/happiness-is-always-a-choice-take-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Happiness is always a choice, take 2"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/LO1mTELoj6o\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>CGP Grey made an awesome video last week, which should come as a surprise to nobody, but this one is exceptional even by CGP Grey&#8217;s standards. In it, he borrows\u00a0some of Doctor Randy J. Paterson&#8217;s work in <a href=\"http:\/\/amzn.to\/2rv1lnY\">How to Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use<\/a> and gives us a seven step program on how to be miserable. Those steps are:<\/p>\n<ol>\n<li>Stay still.<\/li>\n<li>Screw with your sleep.<\/li>\n<li>Maximize your screen time.<\/li>\n<li>Use your screen to stoke your negative emotions.<\/li>\n<li>Set vapid goals.<\/li>\n<li>Pursue happiness directly.<\/li>\n<li>Follow your instincts.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Since this\u00a0basically describes 80% of people on the internet at any given time, it comes as no surprise that the video soon went mega-viral.<\/p>\n<p>Generally, I think most of CGP Grey&#8217;s anti-advice is spot on. However, there is one part that I disagree with rather strongly. It&#8217;s <a href=\"https:\/\/youtu.be\/LO1mTELoj6o?t=5m2s\">the part where he says:<\/a><\/p>\n<blockquote><p>True happiness is like a bird that might land on your ship, but never if you constantly stand guard to catch him. Instead, improve your ship and sail into warmer waters. The bird will land when you aren&#8217;t looking.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Happiness is not a bird that comes and goes as it pleases, without any input from you. Instead, it is a decision you make on how you will respond to things outside of your control.<\/p>\n<p>In other words, happiness is always a choice.<\/p>\n<p>A while ago, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/?p=10609\">I wrote a blog post on the subject.<\/a>\u00a0In it, I said:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>There are only two classes of things in this world: things that act, and things that are acted upon.\u00a0Empowerment is when you give somebody the ability to act for themselves, independent of outside forces. Disempowerment is when you\u00a0take that ability away.<\/p>\n<p>There is nothing more empowering than to realize that no matter where you are in life\u2014no matter how shitty your circumstances\u2014you can always still choose to be happy.<\/p>\n<p>Happiness is a feeling that only exists inside of you. It is not something external that is forced or bestowed upon you by outside forces. It is wholly internal to your heart and mind. It is a reaction to outside forces\u2014a reaction that you choose to make.<\/p>\n<p>If happiness is not a choice\u2014if it is something over which we have no control\u2014then we cannot have any control over any of our feelings. Our passions are\u00a0external forces that act upon us, and we are powerless to stop them because our\u00a0emotional development ended at age two.<\/p>\n<p>Is there anything empowering or liberating about this philosophy? No. Quite the opposite. It\u00a0debases mankind and makes us no better than the animals. It destroys our agency and makes us slaves to our passions.<\/p>\n<p>Happiness is always a choice.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>That said, I do think there&#8217;s some truth to CGP Grey&#8217;s bird analogy as well. Happiness is not like a bird, but joy, or enduring happiness, is.<\/p>\n<p>Joy is a deeper form of happiness that comes as a result of hard work and accomplishment. We can&#8217;t decide to have joy without first putting in the effort. And even when we do put in the effort, there&#8217;s no guarantee that joy will be the result. There may be pain, or failure, or even tragedy.<\/p>\n<p>But even as we seek to do the things that will bring us joy, we can choose to be happy along the way. Indeed, we must. If we don&#8217;t, we\u00a0risk losing the hope that enables and empowers us to keep striving. Choosing to be happy, no matter the circumstances, is the first step toward finding joy.<\/p>\n<p>However, it&#8217;s important to point out that this is not a cure for depression or mental illness, which are\u00a0medical conditions and must be treated as such. Choosing to be happy will not cure your mental illness any more than smiling\u00a0will cure diabetes.<\/p>\n<p>So, perhaps not a major disagreement, but definitely a legitimate quibble. What are your thoughts?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>CGP Grey made an awesome video last week, which should come as a surprise to nobody, but this one is exceptional even by CGP Grey&#8217;s standards. In it, he borrows\u00a0some of Doctor Randy J. Paterson&#8217;s work in How to Be Miserable: 40 Strategies You Already Use and gives us a seven step program on how&hellip; <a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/happiness-is-always-a-choice-take-2\/\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Happiness is always a choice, take 2<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1],"tags":[1103,1101,196,30,1102,599],"class_list":["post-11096","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","tag-cgp-grey","tag-free-will","tag-happiness","tag-life-decisions","tag-self-improvement","tag-thoughts-reflections","entry"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p7iXK-2SY","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11096","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11096"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11096\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":11097,"href":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11096\/revisions\/11097"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11096"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11096"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.onelowerlight.com\/writing\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11096"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}